Relationship Dynamics: The Pursuer Distancer Cycle and Solutions
The pursuer-distancer dynamic is one of the most common dynamics couples find themselves in, but there are ways to understand and escape it.
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6 Reasons Why Couples Therapy Might Not Work, and What to Do About Them
A therapist's insight into why couples therapy might not work, and what to do about it.
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Attachment Styles: How they impact dating, love and friendships
If you’re interested in the personal growth space, or you’ve been to therapy, or stayed up late googling “Why does my partner say I’m...
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Are Relationships Supposed to Be Hard?
Are relationships supposed to be hard? How much work should a relationship be? And what are you supposed to work on anyway? Firstly: Yes,...
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How To Talk About Money: Tackling Challenges and Mastering Strategies for Couples
Sex and money. Two of the most common sources of conflict and disconnect between couples. Both can be sensitive and complex topics in any...
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Untangling an Emotional Triad: Guilt, Shame, and Resentment
The emotion of guilt makes a frequent appearance in my sessions with clients. Some are visited by feelings of guilt almost daily. Guilt...
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How to Apologise to Heal Hearts, Repair Trust, and Strengthen Bonds
Apologies (good ones, at least) are more than mere words. They are transformative acts that have the power to heal wounds, provide relief...
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Establishing, Utilising, and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries - Fundamentals of Relationships
In the previous post , we looked at a definition of boundaries, the difference between internal and external boundaries, types of...
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The Power of Healthy Boundaries: Staying Protected and Connected in Relationships
Boundaries are the invisible yet essential rules that define our personal space and emotional well-being in our interpersonal...
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Striking a Balance: Exploring Hyper-Independence in Relationships
Independence is often celebrated (particularly within Western cultures) as a valuable quality, promoting personal growth, autonomy, and...
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Recognising and Managing Codependency: Nurturing Healthy Relationships and Personal Wellbeing
Relationships are an integral part of our lives, offering support, companionship, and love. Most people desire connected, supportive,...
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The Beauty (and Terror) of Interdependence: Building Strong and Fulfilling Relationships
In our current times, we are often reminded of the importance of independence and self-reliance, especially in Western cultures. While...
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Why do we keep having the same old fight?
Regardless of the content, most couples tend to have a same, repetitive fight (or three) that they return to over and over again. Why do...
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