Articles

If you're wondering if you might have an avoidant attachment style, or trying to understand the thinking of a partner who does, this article begins to explain how an avoidantly attached person might think about and experience relationships. Important Note: Always remember that attachment style labels are broad categories, and every person is an individual. You or your partner may or may not relate to some or all of the ideas below. How an avoidantly attached person might thin

The pursuer-distancer dynamic is one of the most common dynamics couples find themselves in, but there are ways to understand and escape it.

If you’re interested in the personal growth space, or you’ve been to therapy, or stayed up late googling “Why does my partner say I’m clingy?” or “Why do people ghost other people?”, you might’ve come across the concept of attachment theory and attachment styles. Simply put, attachment theory is a model used to explain four common ways of relating and emotional bonding that can be observed in both children and adults. Our attachment styles are the unconscious beliefs we hol

The inner critic is the name given to an internal voice that pops up with mean, judgmental, disempowering thoughts. Yours might appear when you’ve made a mistake, are feeling embarrassed, or are trying to stretch yourself and learn something new. It might even arrive when things are going well, cautioning you not to get too comfortable or expect any success to last. The message of the inner critic often veers into out-and-out bully territory. It’s not just offering criticis

Why you might feel anxious for no reason, and what to do if this happens.

The emotion of guilt makes a frequent appearance in my sessions with clients. Some are visited by feelings of guilt almost daily. Guilt (or the avoidance of it, because it is so unpleasant), determines their choices, actions, and how they spend their time. When it drives decision-making, it is also often followed hotly by obligation and its twin, resentment. This post explores the ideas of appropriate and inappropriate guilt, as well as the difference between guilt and shame.

Here’s a sneak peek into one of my sessions - I have had this same conversation with so many clients. They come because they don’t feel...

Relationships are an integral part of our lives, offering support, companionship, and love. Most people desire connected, supportive,...

Insomnia. Racing heart. Shortness of breath. Sweating. Ruminating on social interactions, both before and after they happen. Saying no to invitations and new experiences. Any of these sound familiar? Or all of them? Anxiety is probably the most common issue my individual clients present with, and it’s something I have first-hand experience with myself. These days, I’d say my anxiety generally operates within the ‘range of normal’ — it doesn’t paralyse me or interrupt m