Averil Schiff, M.A., PgDip (Couns), MNZAC

Hi, I’m Averil. I’m a registered counsellor and coach in private practice on the North Shore, Auckland. If you’re having trouble with anxiety, need some clarity, direction, and drive, or are tired of the problems in your relationship, I’m here to help.
Being a human isn’t always easy, but there are ways to make it a little smoother and more fulfilling. The most important relationship we build is the one between our own ears, but most of us aren't ever given any explicit instruction on this.
I’m an action-oriented therapist and coach, meaning that while I’ll probably ask about how you grew up, how something made you feel - the usual “therapy stuff” - I’ll also provide you with effective techniques for making progress. I often provide resources you can take home with you, and set homework (if you're up for it) to keep your momentum going between sessions. My style is empathic, warm, and with humour - there are times to be serious and times to bring some laughter to the things our minds do to us.

I have a wide range of clients, and I especially enjoy working with women in theirs 20s and 30s. I have a particular interest in topics such as anxiety, perfectionism, low self-esteem and self-worth - things so many of us women have struggles with.

I often tell clients that learning the skills I share with clients has also made me a better, happier, if still imperfect person and partner. And I know from years of working with people that anyone can learn to make significant improvements to their lives and relationships with commitment and the right support.

If you’re ready, the process of therapy or coaching can provide exploration, growth and learning that will assist you now and into the future. I’ll support you with the best strategies for making progress, whether it’s shifting how you look at things, being more compassionate with yourself, taking giant steps towards the life you really want, or becoming truly connected with your partner. 

My Approach
With my therapy clients I draw on techniques from Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Relational Life Therapy, Internal Family Systems ('parts work') and other methods, depending on the approach that suits you and your situation best. Click here for more information on these.

In coaching, I use these clinical skills and tools in an outcome-focused way to get the observable outcomes that you are looking for. After spending thousands of hours over my career working with people to understand and change their behaviour, I have an intimate knowledge of the common struggles we share and the most effective strategies that create life-changing results .

My Background
I have worked across the field of human services and behaviour change for 18 years, both here in Auckland and in my second home of Los Angeles. After completing my Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling at the University of Auckland, I established a thriving private practice on the North Shore.

I have a passion for working with individuals with anxiety, people who know life could be better but don't know how, and couples who know the status quo of their relationship can't continue the way it is. To support my couples work I completed Relational Life Therapy Level One and Two training through the Relational Life Institute in the USA. I  continually up-skill - different strategies work for different people and it's important to me that I can offer a range of tools and techniques for my clients to try.

During my studies I completed an internship counselling young adults at Youthline and especially enjoyed supporting those in their university years with anxiety. I love working with people navigating their early adulthood and am always so impressed with the willingness and openness of these generations to seek therapy and get the support they need.
One of the most challenging (and meaningful) roles I have worked in has been in the rehabilitation and forensic sector, helping men and women learn to manage their thoughts and feelings, improve their relationships and communication skills, and make lifestyle changes that reverberate in their families for generations to come.
After working in Auckland's maximum security prison, there is nothing you can say that will shock me. The years I spent working in that environment also built in me an unshakeable belief in people's ability to make enormous positive changes for themselves and their families when the motivation and support is there.

I look forward to talking with you about what you want to get from therapy or coaching. You can book online, or get in touch via email or text message with any questions.

Ph: 021 706 016