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Part Two of a story illustrating and analysing how anxious attachment feels in a relationship.

An illustrative story of how an anxiously attached person might experience relationships. The first companion post to the Avoidant Attachment: What's Really Going On Inside series.

Imagine it’s your birth day today, the very first day you arrive on the outside. There’s a person or two to take you home and whether they realise it (or are ready to) or not, they’re about to start shaping the adult you become. Their job on top of that, is to keep you alive until you’re old enough to do it yourself. Your job, as a brand new being, is to do the things that encourage the people to meet your needs. Early on, you’re running on pure instinct. You make the noise

Can relationships work when one person has an anxious attachment style and the other has an avoidant attachment style?

Understand two of the most common reasons people with anxious and avoidant attachment styles attract one another.

Part two of a two part story and clinical analysis illustrating the internal experience of someone who is avoidantly attached in a relationship.

What "processing" something in therapy actually means, and why it is so helpful.