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Sex and money. Two of the most common sources of conflict and disconnect between couples. Both can be sensitive and complex topics in any relationship, triggering emotions, past experiences, judgements, expectations, and power dynamics. They often link to deep-seated beliefs and fears which make it understandably difficult to stay calm and open to each other’s views. Open and honest communication strategies that can withstand any topic are crucial for building a strong, lasti

The emotion of guilt makes a frequent appearance in my sessions with clients. Some are visited by feelings of guilt almost daily. Guilt (or the avoidance of it, because it is so unpleasant), determines their choices, actions, and how they spend their time. When it drives decision-making, it is also often followed hotly by obligation and its twin, resentment. This post explores the ideas of appropriate and inappropriate guilt, as well as the difference between guilt and shame.

Learn the structure of an effective apology to repair relationships or patch up after an argument.

What boundaries are and the different types, and how to distinguish boundaries vs expectations.

Regardless of the content, most couples tend to have a same, repetitive fight (or three) that they return to over and over again. Why do I have to do everything around here?! Because if I do it it's never up to your standard! Just tell me what you want me to do! You’re so controlling! Well I wouldn’t have to be, if I could trust you to be reliable! It’s like I can never do anything right by you! Well you would get things right, if you’d just think about someone other than y