Blog

Writings on the common topics, models, and approaches

in my therapy practice.

What Does Secure Attachment Look Like in Relationships?

What secure attachment in adults looks like in relationships, how it relates to trust, and how it is involved in healthy relationships.

Anxious Attachment in Relationships: (Part Two) — The Analysis

Part Two of a story illustrating and analysing how anxious attachment feels in a relationship.

Anxious Attachment in Relationships: (Part One) How it Feels From the Inside

An illustrative story of how an anxiously attached person might experience relationships. The first companion post to the Avoidant Attachment: What's Really Going On Inside series.

What Creates Anxious Attachment? Childhood Experiences that can Create Anxiously Attached Adults

Imagine it’s your birth day today, the very first day you arrive on the outside. There’s a person or two to take you home and whether they realise it (or are ready to) or not, they’re about to start shaping the adult you become. Their job on top of that, is to keep you alive until you’re old enough to do it yourself. Your job, as a brand new being, is to do the things that encourage the people to meet your needs. Early on, you’re running on pure instinct. You make the noise

Can Anxious and Avoidant Relationships Work?

Can relationships work when one person has an anxious attachment style and the other has an avoidant attachment style?